Dating in my 20's
Hey guys! It's Morgan, the single sister of the sister duo behind POISED. Today we’re talking about dating. Dating in your 20’s can be overwhelming. Between social media outlets, finding ourselves, making money, doing 50 squats a day, and getting hundreds of likes on Instagram, now you're telling me I must find love too? #brainoverload
Although dating in our 20’s can be a lot, it can be fun and a great way to meet new people. We need to take advantage of this moment! Millennials often find it so intimidating to get dressed, pick a place to go out, and have a normal conversation with someone because our generation is used to communicating behind an electronic screen that when forced to interact in person things can get weird and uncomfortable. So, here is my advice based on my personal experiences. Not saying that this is for everyone, but if you’ve been single for a while or new to the single life give these few options a try. You never know who you might meet; they could be "the one."
1. Start with a clean slate
Do not Instagram stalk your new potential boo! Try entering each new relationship with a clean slate and a positive attitude. I’m not saying you shouldn't look up the person you’re going to be staring at for the next couple of hours. It’s okay to do a quick search to see what you’re working with. But try to let your first impression be a good old fashion one...when you first lay eyes on each other. Deep diving into someone’s social media can sometimes kill the vibe. The truth will always come to light sis… remember that.
2. Be yourself!
Being your authentic self demonstrates confidence and is so attractive! Obviously, they liked you for a reason, or they wouldn't be on a date with you. So why pretend to be someone else? It is much easier to be yourself. Hiding behind a facade will quickly become tedious and time consuming. How wonderful it will be for the new person in your life to discover your beautiful spirit?!
3. Ask pointed questions
The fastest way to get to know someone is to have a good old fashioned conversation. Call me crazy, but this is one of the most enjoyable parts of meeting new people. It is also a process that allows you to ask just about anything you want to know without seeming obtrusive. Being inquisitive is a skill I have perfected and suggest you do to if you don’t want to waste your valuable time with someone who is incompatible.
4. Be open to new things
Having an open mind can be exhilarating. Be open to new experiences and meeting new people. What harm would it do? You've been doing the same thing all these years and still single, so maybe a fresh perspective is what you need. You might discover something new about yourself or about the other person that you may love! But you'll never know until you step outside of your comfort zone.
5. Do not ignore the red flags and never, ever settle!
Even though I recommend being open to new things, this doesn’t mean you should forget your common sense or values. Women have a strong intuition. Red flags are those situations that cause pause or trigger a little voice in your head that says “let’s examine that more.” The older we get, the wiser we become and can call bull! Never settle! We're young and have so much time to date, discover and explore new people. Don't just date because you're bored or don't like being single. If he or she is not the right person for you, call it quits. I promise it will be okay and more importantly you will be okay. Alone time allows you to reflect and refresh, embrace it!!!
I hope these tips are helpful in your dating life. Feel free to comment or follow me on Instagram @morgannicole_1.
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